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Unlocking Answers: Key Questions to Ask the Fertility Consultant at Your First Fertility Appointment

Woman researching questions using a computer to ask at her first fertility appointment

Ever wished for a foolproof set of questions to make your first fertility consultation a breeze? Well look no further, we've got you covered!

You've booked the appointment, you've taken that crucial step towards exploring your fertility journey, and now you're gearing up for that important consultation at the fertility clinic. The journey to parenthood is unique for everyone, and arming yourself with the right questions can make all the difference. As you step into the realm of fertility treatments, being prepared with thoughtful questions ensures that you gain the insights you need for a well-informed and empowered decision-making process.

Let's unravel the key questions to ask your consultant at the fertility clinic, ensuring that your path to solo motherhood is guided by knowledge, clarity, and confidence.


Question 1

What is my current fertility status?

Understanding your current reproductive health will provide a baseline for discussing potential treatments.

Question 2

What fertility tests are recommended for me and why?

Discussing specific tests (e.g., HyCoSy, Ovarian Reserve Scan, Anti-Mullerian Hormone Test) can help determine any underlying issues and guide your treatment plan.

Question 3

What are the potential treatment options available for SMBC?

Explore the range of fertility treatments suitable for your situation, such as artificial insemination by IUI (intrauterine insemination), in vitro fertilization (IVF) or intracytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSI). Discuss the option of medicated vs. unmedicated treatments.

Question 4

What are the success rates of the recommended treatments?

Understanding success rates can help manage expectations and inform your decision-making process. Be sure to clarify the clinics meaning of success. Is it live births? pregnancies? what about for your age group?

Question 5

What are the potential risks and side effects of the recommended treatments?

Being aware of potential risks allows you to make informed decisions about your fertility journey.

Question 6

How many treatment cycles might be necessary for success?

Discussing the potential duration of the fertility treatment process can help you plan for the future.

Question 7

What lifestyle changes can positively impact fertility?

Inquire about any lifestyle modifications that might enhance the success of fertility treatments e.g., what supplements do they recommend or are there any dietary changes you should make?

Question 8

What financial considerations should I be aware of? Do they provide any payment packages or refund programmes?

Understanding the costs associated with fertility treatments, including consultations, tests, and procedures, is crucial for planning.

Question 9

Are there support services or counselling available?

Fertility treatments can be emotionally challenging. Knowing about available support services can be beneficial.

Question 10

What is the next step in the process, and what can I do to prepare? Is there is a current waitlist, or can I start immediately?

Get a clear understanding of the immediate next steps in your fertility journey and any preparations you should make.


Extra Questions you may like to ask:

We reached out to some incredible single mothers by choice who've been there, done that, and they shared their wisdom with us. Below is a curated list of additional questions suggested by these amazing women. You will leave your appointment with all the knowledge you could ever need. Just don't forget to take a pen and paper!

  • Which sperm and/or embryo banks do the clinic accept? Do they have any requirements when it comes to selecting a donor e.g., CMV status

  • How many vials of sperm do they recommend for your choice of treatment and what kind of sperm?

  • Does the clinic carry out scans, egg collections and transfers at weekends as well as during the week? Are they open 365 days a year?

  • Can you purchase medication anywhere you like, or only at the clinic? Does the clinic charge you for prescriptions?

  • If you opt for IVF, do they offer 3-day, 5-day or sequential transfers (split transfers)?

  • What are the clinics storage fees for sperm, eggs and embryos?

  • If relevant, what insurance do they take, and what will they bill your insurance company?

  • If you decide to change clinics in the future, will they transfer any remaining egg, sperm or embryos to your new clinic?

  • Who do you contact if you have any follow-up questions?


to tailor these questions, to ask your fertility consultant, to your specific situation and preferences. Open communication with your fertility consultant ensures a collaborative approach to your solo motherhood journey.

Good luck, and may the answer to every question above bring you one step further along the path to becoming a SMBC.

We hope you found this post of the key questions to ask your fertility consultant useful. If you did please give it some love and leave a comment. We would love to hear from you!


Are you an SMBC and feel we have missed a key question out? Please get in touch in the comments below to add your question to the list.


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