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In May 2024, a groundbreaking study by King’s College London unveiled new insights into the psychological outcomes of donor-conceived versus non-donor-conceived individuals. This research is particularly timely and relevant, given that over 70,000 donor-conceived (DC) people have been born in the UK since 1991. Despite this significant number, little has been known about their long-term psychological outcomes, and no previous systematic review has assessed these comprehensively. The recent study fills this gap by exploring the nuanced impacts of donor conception, revealing several positive aspects that are especially relevant for solo mothers by choice. For those who have embarked on this unique parenting journey, the findings offer affirmation and support, highlighting the strengths and successes that come from our supportive and loving parenting. Donor-conceived children often show higher levels of psychological well-being and self-esteem, reflecting the positive impact of loving and supportive parenting. Read a summary of the findings below or the full research study here. Being a solo mother by choice is a journey filled with love, dedication, and unique challenges. Recent research sheds light on the positive impact of this choice, particularly on the well-being of donor-conceived children. Here’s a quick summary of some inspiring findings that highlight the strengths of your parenting journey: 1. Health and Well-Being Boost Studies reveal that donor-conceived (DC) children often experience higher levels of health and well-being compared to their peers. They score better in mental health assessments and self-esteem measures, showcasing their resilience and confidence. 2. Social and Academic performance Donor-conceived children also shine in social and academic realms. Research indicates that they tend to have higher social competence and perform better academically than their peers. These findings highlight the significant positive influence of supportive parenting, leading to well-rounded and successful children and adults. 3. Strong Parent-Child Bonds The quality of parent-child relationships in solo mother families is particularly notable. Research shows that these families often experience fewer conflicts and maintain a nurturing and respectful environment. This positive dynamic contributes to a strong and loving bond between mothers and their children. 4. Power of Early Disclosure Another key finding is the benefit of early disclosure. Telling children about their donor conception status before the age of 7 is associated with better psychological well-being and fewer negative emotions. Early honesty helps foster trust and supports the development of a positive self-identity in children. In Conclusion These findings affirm that the love, dedication, and unique family dynamics of solo mothers by choice have a profound and positive impact on their children. Your commitment to creating a supportive and loving environment is making a significant difference in their lives. Curious to hear your thoughts! What's your take on the findings of this research study on the positive impacts of donor conception? Leave a comment below and let's spark a conversation. want to read more research studies on the positive impacts of donor conception? Subscribe now... so you never miss a single research article!

Welcome to  'SMBC Stories: Insights from the Journey '. In this heartfelt series, we delve into the lives of remarkable women who have embraced solo motherhood by choice. Through candid interviews, we aim to inspire, educate, and uplift those considering or embarking on this transformative journey. Join us as we share stories of resilience, courage, and determination, offering support to all navigating the journey to become a single mother by choice. Caroline Hall, 42 The tests were brutal—I knew my fertility wasn’t exactly spring chicken level, but hearing that it was even lower than expected for my age was a gut punch! The consultant didn’t sugarcoat it—it was gonna be a tough ride. The Decision-Making Process My Fertility Journey Support Systems Solo Parenting Reflections   Finances, Work & Motherhood Self-care & Wellbeing Lessons learned Cultural & Societal Perceptions Future Aspirations Words of Encouragement The decision-making process How did you navigate the decision-making process? I am one of four and always dreamed of travelling, having epic romances, and eventually starting a family. I figured it would all fall into place once I found the right partner to share my life with. After years of adventures and epic romances, I had a revelation: if I truly wanted a family of my own, I needed to take matters into my own hands! Growing up, I saw my mom raise four of us single-handedly, proving that a traditional family isn’t the only path to happiness. Deciding that my family would consist of just me and a little one was the first step. Once I made that decision, I dove into researching all my options. Living abroad, I knew I’d have to head back to the UK to either adopt or pursue fertility treatment—solo parenting wasn’t really a thing in the countries I was in! So, I started saving up like a pro! When a break in contracts finally allowed me to move back to the UK, I had done my homework and knew exactly what I wanted. Fertility treatment was my top choice, with adoption as a backup plan. I even weighed the pros and cons of going private versus NHS. Considering my age, I opted for the private route! becoming a single mother by choice: My FERTILITY JOURNEY Can you share your experiences with fertility treatments or the path you took to concieve? Back in the UK in July 2020, smack dab between the two COVID lockdowns, I had already scoped out my fertility clinic, which conveniently had branches in London and Liverpool—places I was considering settling down. Despite not having a steady job, I was in pretty good health and financially stable as I could be! While I was figuring out where to plant my roots—scouting rentals and job scenes—I jumped into fertility tests to gauge whether I needed to kickstart things right away or if I had a bit of leeway. At 40, I knew time wasn’t exactly on my side, especially with COVID looming. Little did I know how spot-on I’d be about needing backup plans with the possibility of another lockdown! The tests were brutal—I knew my fertility wasn’t exactly spring chicken level, but hearing that it was even lower than expected for my age was a gut punch! The consultant didn’t sugarcoat it—it was gonna be a tough ride. Decision time—ASAP it was! So, while settling in Liverpool and job hunting, I picked my sperm donor and shifted my file over to the Liverpool clinic. Initially, I opted for medicated IUI, but the Liverpool consultant set me straight—basically said it would be throwing money down the drain (okay, maybe with more colourful language). He broke down the odds based on my fertility, giving me another choice to mull over. IVF with donor sperm it was! Ordered from a European Sperm Bank since COVID made finding a donor in the UK a headache. Once that was sorted, I geared up for the rollercoaster ride—those injections were no joke. Everything seemed to be sailing smoothly until the day of egg collection in Manchester—turns out, there was nothing to harvest. Talk about a gut-wrenching blow. After a counselling session and a frank talk with my consultant (seriously, he was brutally honest—gun to my head, donor eggs were the way to go, his words!), I went for it. Chose an egg donor, had the magic happen, and boom—six top-notch embryos in the bank! Four FETs and four negative results—tested my patience, positivity, and faith that this would pan out. Toughest part? Knowing I was pulling out all the stops to conceive, yet nothing was sticking. Embryo number five didn’t make it, and by the time embryo six rolled around, I was all but resigned. But I soldiered on through the motions. I vividly recall sitting on the bathroom floor, tears streaming, asking the clinic receptionist what two lines on a test meant! Even then, it didn’t fully sink in that I was actually pregnant until around week 20! SUPPORT SYSTEMS How did your friends and family react to your decision, and what kind of support did you receive? When I spilled the beans, one brother went, ‘About bloody time!’ Classic! Dad jumped in right away, asking if I needed any cash. My family’s just awesome like that. We’re scattered across different countries and cities, but they’ve always got my back. My brother even gave me some hands-on training with his little ones—nephew and niece duty, you know? Moving to Liverpool meant starting from scratch in the friends department. Luckily, I scored some gems at my job, where I’d been holding it down for a year and a half before the bun started baking. These pals were my ride-or-die crew, cheering me on through the ups and downs, almost as stoked as I was when I got the baby news! But I knew I needed more backup, so I hit up a Single Moms By Choice Facebook group. From there, I hopped into a WhatsApp chat and met some kickass ladies whose due dates were all around springtime. Those girls? Lifesavers from pregnancy woes to nappy dilemmas and beyond. SOLO PARENTING Reflections Reflecting on your journey, what stands out as the most rewarding aspect of being a single mother by choice? Watching my boy grow and turn into this curious little dude as he explores the world—it’s everything! And let me tell you, nothing beats that cheeky smile of his to light up my day! FINANCES, WORK & MOTHERHOOD Being a single mother by choice involves unique financial challenges. How do you navigate these challenges and overcome them effectively? I kicked off this journey with a simple choice: house or baby. Easy call for me—I could always hustle for more house cash later! So, I dove in headfirst, stashing away every spare dime into my baby fund while still keeping tabs on travel and house savings. Weekly budgeting became my jam, although it freaked me out a bit at first. Thankfully, I’ve honed my skills over the years—just had to keep my eyes on the prize and tighten the purse strings. Reviewing my budget monthly became a ritual, helping me tweak what worked and what didn’t. Keeping a separate account for spending kept me from going overboard. I still shuffle my money around like a pro, sticking to a strict budget, but hey, I’ve still got my baby fund and travel stash intact for the essentials and a bit of wanderlust! Once I hop back into the work grind, I plan to divvy up my paycheck much the same way. That way, we can live the good life and I can give my little dude the world. Oh, and I’ve even set up a savings account for him, chipping in each month so when he hits 18, he’ll have a fat stack waiting for either some epic travels or university adventures. SELF-CARE & WELLBEING Prioritizing self-care is key; how do you ensure your well-being while managing the responsibilities of single parenthood? Man, being a Single Mom by Choice (SMBC) is no joke! I totally didn’t expect it to be this tough. It’s a constant work in progress, let me tell you! But hey, I make it a point to sneak in a hot cup of coffee or a quick shower whenever I can catch a breather. And now that my little dude’s munching on solids, we chow down on the same grub, ensuring we both get our healthy fix. Oh, and let’s not forget my monthly eyebrow sesh—gotta treat myself, right? Plus, it’s always a blast catching up with Beth, who’s been by my side through this whole journey. She gets a kick out of seeing my little munchkin too! Instead of drowning in chores, I’ve learned to kick back and relax during nap times—if I’m not catching some Z’s myself, that is. Despite the challenges, I’ve realized that being kind to yourself is key. And hey, a little reminder: social media ain’t raising your kiddo—you are! So, do what works best for you, mama. You got this! LESSONS LEARNED Reflecting on your journey, what valuable lessons have you learned on the path to single motherhood by choice? Go all in! I was dead set on leaving no stone unturned to score that positive pregnancy test. Every setback only fueled my determination, and knowing I gave it my all left me with zero regrets. If things hadn’t panned out the way they did, I wouldn’t have looked back with a single ounce of regret. CULTURAL & SOCIETAL PERCEPTIONS How do you navigate societal perceptions or judgments about being a single mother by choice? I’m pretty upfront about my journey, and I’ll set the record straight with folks I know if needed. But I’ve learned not to let random comments from strangers get under my skin. This path ain’t easy, and a lot of people just don’t get why we choose it—and that’s totally fine. It was the right call for me, but hey, it’s not one-size-fits-all. FUTURE ASPIRATIONS Looking to the future, what are your hopes and aspirations for both yourself and your child? Our next big move? Snagging our own home and planting ourselves in a fabulous community—just keep on building our dream squad, you know? WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMNT If you could share a message with women considering the path of being a SMBC, what would it be? Hey, if having a family is your thing, don’t let society’s rulebook hold you back. It bums me out when I hear women say, “I wanted this, but…” Nah, no room for “buts” when it’s your heart’s desire—go all in and figure out how to make it work! And hey, don’t go it alone—reach out to someone, like a counselor. They’re golden for helping you navigate the highs and lows of this journey. Trust me, I found bits of myself I never knew existed along the way! Caroline Hall We hope you enjoyed this insightful glimpse into Caroline's' journey as a single mother by choice. A big thank you to Caro for sharing. If you want to hear more empowering stories like this one, be sure to subscribe. Want to share your SMBC story? Email smbclife@gmail.com  Stay tuned for more uplifting tales from other single mothers by choice!

Discover a supportive community of like-minded individuals. We've collated below a list of must-join Facebook groups tailored for single mothers by choice. Whether you're seeking advice, sharing experiences, or simply connecting with others on a similar journey, these groups offer valuable support and community. Explore the Facebook groups categorized for your convenience! Click on a category to dive In. UPDATED MUST-JOIN FACEBOOK GROUPS FOR SINGLE MOTHERS BY CHOICE: CATEGORIES   Region, Country & Location Support Age & Number of Children Religion  Dating, Relationships & Cohabiting Interests Race & Ethnicity Business & Finance Sibling Connections Profession & University If the facebook group is highlighted, it means it has been newly added to the list. 1. REGION, COUNTRY & LOCATION Africa African SMBC Single Mothers by Choice South Africa SMC or SMBC Asia SMBC - South Asian Australia Single Mothers by Choice Australia Solo Mum Society Australia Australian Solo Mothers by Choice - Inc New Zealand - ASMBC - SMC - Mum Canberra Region SMBC Sydney SMBC SMBC Gold Coast SMBC solo mums by choice Gold Coast, Brisbane and surrounds Single Mothers by Choice Using Donor Eggs AND Sperm/Embryos - Australia Canada The Journey to Being a 'Single Mother by Choice' - Canada Single Mothers by Choice Canada Single Parents by Choice to Children with Special Needs in Canada SMBC Alberta SMC Alberta - Alberta Choice moms Private Group Our SMBC Village! Single Moms by Choice - Montreal & Surrounding Areas Single moms/parents by choice Nanaimo and North SMBC Ottawa-Gatineau Choice Parents Toronto (Single Moms, Dads, Gender Variant by Choice) Single Parents by Choice (Victoria BC) Single Moms/Parents by Choice - Winnipeg Europe Single Mom's by Choice (SMC's) Europe Single Mother by Choice - Germany, Austria, Switzerland, Luxembourg France Association Mam’ensolo : Groupe d’échange entre mamans solos par choix Ireland Single Mothers by Choice (Ireland) SMBC Mums SMBC Mums in Waiting Smbc cork/munster Israel Single Parents by Choice Israel Mexico SMA SMC's & Single Parents (San Miguel de Allende) Netherlands Single Mothers by Choice in the Netherlands New Zealand Single Mothers by Choice New Zealand Waikato Single Mothers by Choice Singapore Single Mothers by Choice in Singapore: A Support Group United Arab Emirates Solo Mothers by Choice in the UAE United Kingdom Solo Mothers by Choice UK Solo Parents by Choice UK United States of America Boston Area SMC California Single Parents by Choice Sacramento SMCs (Single Mothers by Choice) Single Mothers By Choice (SMCs) - San Francisco North & South Carolina Single Mothers by Choice (SMCs) Single Mothers by Choice Charlotte, NC Chicago Single Mothers by Choice SMC - Chicago Colorado Solo and Single Parents by Choice Single Mothers By Choice - Colorado Chapter Single Parents by Choice - Connecticut and Westchester CT SMC Florida Single Moms By Choice (SMBC) Boise Single Mothers by Choice (SMC) Single Mothers by Choice of Southern Illinois (SMBC/SMC of IL) Single Mothers by Choice (SMBC) Inland Empire Iowa City Single Mothers By Choice SMC - Single Mothers by Choice, Central Iowa Single Mothers by Choice // Knoxville, TN & surrounding Single Mothers By Choice Las Vegas Single Moms by Choice (SMBC) in Los Angeles/Ventura County Single Mothers by Choice - Seacost ME/NH/MA Single Moms by Choice New Jersey (SMBC) SMC-NJ Single Mothers by Choice In South Jersey, Philly, DE Single Parents by Choice: New York City SMC NYC (Manhattan) Single Mothers by Choice - Western New York Single Moms by Choice of New England Single Mothers by Choice - Oklahoma Central Pennsylvania SMBC Single Mothers by Choice ~ Philly Western Suburbs Pittsburgh SMCs/Choice Moms SMC/SPC Portland Single Parents by Choice Bay Area Single Mothers by Choice San Diego Santa Cruz Single Mother's By Choice (SMC/SMBC) Single Choice Parents - Seattle Area SPCNW - Single Parents by Choice in the Seattle Metro Area Silicon Valley Single Mothers by Choice Single Moms by Choice South Sound STL Single Mothers by Choice (St. Louis) SMBC - Texas TN SMBC SMBC - Tinley/Orland/Frankfort Single Mothers By Choice In Virginia Single Parents by Choice of Burlington area, VT Single Mothers By Choice: DMV Network Single Mothers By Choice- Madison, WI Single mothers by choice utah 2. SUPPORT FOR SINGLE MOTHERS BY CHOICE Single Mothers by Choice Thinkers (SMC) SMC/SPC - Thinking/Trying Support Group For Solo Mothers/Parents by Choice Single Mothers by Choice Tryers (SMC TTC) IVF/IUI Single moms by choice SMC - Single Mothers by Choice by Known Donor SMBC and Intended Parent via Surrogacy Single Mothers by Choice - Home Insemination with a known donor Single Mothers by Choice or Chance Pregnacy, Birth & Beyond SMCs (Single Mothers by Choice) SMC - 4th Trimester & Beyond Support Group for Solo Moms by Choice IVF/IUI-Single Moms by Choice The Mothering Years Single mothers by choice with preemies Single Moms By Choice (SMBC) Embryo Donors/Recipients Matching group SMCs (Single Mothers by Choice) with Multiples SMCs living after loss Single Moms By Choice (SMBC) Support Group Maverick Motherhood - Single Mother by Choice Support Motherhood Reimagined SMC Support SMBC - I'm a MOM, now what? Solo Mothers by Choice (SMC) - Welcome to reality Being your Best Mom: SMBC with MH/other Health Issues Single Mother By Choice: Survivors - navigating being a SMBC after sexual trauma The SMBC Group For SMBC Peaceful Parenting as a Single Mother by Choice (SMC, SPC) Single Mothers by Choice - Parenting Kids of all ages and stages SPC SMC Single Parents by Choice Home schoolers And Crisis Schoolers Single Parents by Choice with Elderly Parents   3. AGE & Number OF CHILDREN Single Parents by Choice - One and Done Single Mom by Choice - 1+ Kiddos Two Under Two - SMBC SPCs Single Parents by Choice with 3+ Kids SMC (Single Mothers by Choice) with Tweens & Teens (10 and up) Young Single Mothers by Choice Single Mothers by Choice - Parenting Kids of all ages and stages CNY Fertility - "IVF" - SMBC 30s & 40s (SINGLE MOTHERS) Single Mothers by Choice (35+) - Parenting Single Mother By Choice 40+ Old Badgers (40+yrs) SMBC Mature SMCs (45+) Single moms by choice smbc/smc babies due in 2024 SMBC due fall 2024 SMBC Babies Due in Spring/Summer 2022 Spring 2020 Birthdate Group (Single Mothers by Choice) Single Mothers by Choice 2020 Babies Summer 2020 Babies: SMBC 2019 SMBC All Ages SMBC Single Parents by Choice 2017 kids * Donor Conceived Persons of Single Mothers by Choice 4. RELIGION Christian Single Moms by Choice Jewish Single Moms by Choice Jewish Single Parents by Choice - Atlanta 5. DATING, RELATIONSHIPS & COHABITING SMBC Dating & Relationship Chat SMC Dating & Romance (Single Mother's by Choice) SMBC Now Partnered (Married Or In Serious Relationship) Single Mothers By Choice Housing & Cohabitation Network Single Mothers By Choice (SMC) Shared Housing Western USA (momune) 6. INTERESTS SMC Recipe Exchange Journaling, Blogging And Instagramming Single Mothers By Choice TTC Single Parents by Choice (SPC/SMC) - Camping Adventures Single Moms by Choice TRAVEL Sightsee with SMC's SMC Retreats in Greece SMBC Disney Fanatics Single Disney Parents (by Choice) - Travel Single Moms by Choice ~ Disney Cruises & Parks SMC visits, stays, and group rentals Single Mothers by Choice - Positive Affirmations 7. RACE & ETHNICITY Black SMBCs Mocha SMC (Single Mothers by Choice) Melanated Single Mothers by Choice (a Start to Finish Motherhood group) Young Black Single Mothers by Choice Single mothers by choice - Biracial Babies Melanated Single Mothers by Choice (a Start to Finish Motherhood Group) 8. BUSINESS & FINANCE SMC Finances SMCs in Business (Single Mothers by Choice) SMC/SMbC Resource Directory and Connection Zone (Single Mom by Choice) 9. SIBLING CONNECTIONS Single Mothers by Choice Only - Donor Number Sharing and Sibling Connection 10. PROFESSION & UNIVERSITY Single Mothers By Choice in Media & Production SMBC Mental Health Providers SMC Educators Smithie Single Parents by Choice Remember, you're not alone – a community of incredible single mothers by choice is just a click away. So, dive into these virtual hubs, share your stories and make connections. Here's to the supportive friendships, shared laughter, and empowering conversations that await you in these wonderful online spaces. Happy Facebook group connecting! Got a great Facebook group in mind that should be on this list? Don't be shy—share your suggestions in the comments below! Your insights help make our community stronger.

Dive into the essential reading list for Single Mothers by Choice (SMBCs) from practical guides to heartfelt memoirs, these carefully curated books offer invaluable insights, support, and inspiration for navigating the unique journey of solo motherhood. Whether you're seeking expert advice or personal anecdotes, this collection has everything you need to thrive as an SMBC.  Books SMBC approved and recommended just for you. "Choosing Single Motherhood: The Thinking Woman's Guide" by Mikki Morrissette " Single by Chance, Mothers by Choice: How Women are Choosing Parenthood Without Marriage and Creating the New American Family" by Rosanna Hertz   “Liv’s Alone” by Liv Thorne  “Single, Again, and Again, and Again” by Louisa Pateman  “Going Solo” by Genevieve Roberts “Breasts and Eggs” by Mieko Kawakami  “Backyard to Backpack: A solo mum, a six year old and a life-changing adventure” by Evie Farrell “Choosing Single Motherhood: The Thinking Woman's Guide" by Mikki Morrissette “Choosing Single Motherhood: The Thinking Woman's Guide" is an empowering and insightful resource for women considering the path of single motherhood. This comprehensive guide offers practical advice, emotional support, and real-life stories from women who have embraced solo parenting. Morrissette explores themes such as the decision-making process, financial planning, fertility options, and the societal perceptions of single mothers. With a thoughtful and encouraging approach, this book serves as a valuable companion for women seeking to navigate the challenges and rewards of choosing single motherhood. "Single by Chance, Mothers by Choice: How Women are Choosing Parenthood Without Marriage and Creating the New American Family" by Rosanna Hertz   "Single by Chance, Mothers by Choice: How Women are Choosing Parenthood Without Marriage and Creating the New American Family" delves into the evolving landscape of modern motherhood. This illuminating book highlights the stories of women who have chosen to become mothers without waiting for marriage, embracing solo parenthood as a fulfilling and viable option. It explores themes of independence, empowerment, and the redefining of family structures in contemporary society. Through personal narratives and expert insights, the book showcases the resilience and resourcefulness of single mothers, offering inspiration and guidance for those considering this path. “Liv’s Alone” by Liv Thorne  “Liv’s Alone” is a candid and inspiring memoir that delves into the realities of solo motherhood. Liv Thorne shares her personal journey of choosing to become a single mother, navigating the challenges and joys of raising a child on her own. The book explores themes of independence, resilience, and the unconventional paths to creating a family. With honesty and humour, Thorne provides an uplifting and relatable narrative for anyone considering or experiencing single motherhood, celebrating the strength and love that define her unique parenting experience. “Single, Again, and Again, and Again” by Louisa Pateman   “Single, Again, and Again, and Again” is a compelling memoir that delves into the challenges and triumphs of navigating life and motherhood as a single woman. Pateman shares her personal experiences of repeatedly finding herself single and ultimately deciding to pursue motherhood on her own terms. The book explores themes of resilience, self-discovery, and the societal pressures surrounding relationships and parenthood. Through candid storytelling and insightful reflections, Pateman offers an empowering perspective on solo motherhood, celebrating the strength and determination it takes to build a fulfilling life and family independently. “Going Solo: My Choice to become a single mother using a donor” by Genevieve Roberts “Going Solo: My Choice to Become a Single Mother Using a Donor” is a candid and empowering memoir that explores the author's journey to solo motherhood. Through her personal narrative, Roberts delves into the emotional, social, and practical challenges she faced while choosing to become a single mother via donor conception. The book highlights themes of resilience, independence, and the redefining of family structures, offering an inspiring perspective on the joys and trials of embarking on motherhood alone. Roberts' story is a testament to the strength and determination required to navigate single motherhood by choice, providing a source of encouragement and insight for others considering a similar path. “Breasts and Eggs” by Mieko Kawakami  "Breasts and Eggs" is a profound exploration of womanhood, motherhood, and identity in contemporary Japan. The novel follows Natsuko, a single woman who embarks on a journey of self-discovery while grappling with the decision to become a mother on her own. Through her poignant and insightful narrative, Kawakami delves into the complexities of solo motherhood, societal expectations, and the quest for personal fulfilment. The book illuminates the strength and resilience of women who choose to navigate motherhood independently, offering a thought-provoking commentary on the nature of family and the courage it takes to forge one's own path. “Backyard to Backpack: A solo mum, a six year old and a life-changing adventure” by Evie Farrell  "Backyard to Backpack: A Solo Mum, a Six Year Old and a Life-Changing Adventure" is a captivating memoir that chronicles the journey of a solo mother who embarks on a transformative adventure with her young daughter. The book does not specifically address the concept of being a single mother by choice but it deals with themes of resilience, adventure, and personal growth following the loss of a partner. Farrell's narrative highlights the themes of solo motherhood, resilience, and the pursuit of a fulfilling life beyond conventional boundaries. Through their travels across diverse cultures and landscapes, the book showcases the unique bond between mother and child, and the strength it takes to create meaningful experiences and memories as a single parent. Farrell's story is an inspiring testament to the power of embracing life's uncertainties and the rewards of stepping outside one's comfort zone. Happy Reading! We hope you Enjoy these 7 Books Every Single Mother by Choice Should Have on their shelf If you appreciated this list of books every single mother by choice should have and want to stay connected for more recommendations, tips, and stories about single motherhood by choice, be sure to subscribe. By subscribing, you'll never miss an update and you'll be the first to know about our upcoming articles, book reviews, and stories.

Welcome to 'SMBC Stories: Insights from the Journey'. In this heartfelt series, we delve into the lives of remarkable women who have embraced solo motherhood by choice. Through candid interviews, we aim to inspire, educate, and uplift those considering or embarking on this transformative journey. Join us as we share stories of resilience, courage, and determination, offering support to all navigating the journey to become a single mother by choice. Dawn, 35 If I continued waiting for a relationship and ended up missing my chance for a biological child, I’d be devastated. So, I made the decision to go for it! The Decision-Making Process My Fertility Journey Support Systems Solo Parenting Reflections Finances, Work & Motherhood Lessons learned Cultural & Societal Perceptions Future Aspirations Words of Encouragement The decision-making process What motivated you or inspired you to become a solo mother by choice? I always knew I wanted to be a mum, but I hadn’t yet found the right person to have children with. A friend of mine suggested going for a fertility assessment, where I discovered a few medical reasons why I should start trying for a baby sooner rather than later. At that moment, I decided that if I continued waiting for a relationship and ended up missing my chance for a biological child, I’d be devastated. So, I made the decision to go for it! I felt like it was the right time in my life to welcome a child. becoming a single mother by choice: My FERTILITY JOURNEY Can you share your experiences with fertility treatments or the path you took to concieve? I started with a fertility assessment at my clinic to check things such as my egg count and fallopian tubes. On the advice of the doctor, I began with IUI. I went in for a scan around day 8 of my cycle to see if the follicles were growing, and then, when I had a positive ovulation test, I went in the next day for the insemination. Round 1 was unsuccessful, and for the next two months, I didn’t get a peak on the ovulation tests. So, it was decided that I would start on Clomid on day 2 of my cycle to stimulate the eggs to grow, then take an injection of Ovitrelle to trigger ovulation. I would then go to the clinic for insemination the next day. On my 4th round of IUI, the 3rd using medication, I fell pregnant with my daughter! SUPPORT SYSTEMS Building a community is crucial; can you share your experience in finding or establishing a network of fellow single mothers by choice? I didn’t know any SMBC (Single Mothers by Choice) before I fell pregnant, but I knew I wanted to meet others for myself and for my daughter to know other donor-conceived children. I joined a Facebook group for UK-based SMBC and, through that, two WhatsApp groups: one for pregnant people due around the same time as me and one for SMBC in my local area. Since then, I have met up with several mums and children and have been on holiday twice with eight wonderful mums and babies. This has been incredibly important to me because I feel there are experiences unique to solo mums that others in different circumstances may not share. It is also important for my daughter to see others conceived in the same way as her to normalise it. SOLO PARENTING Reflections Reflecting on your journey, what stands out as the most rewarding aspect of being a single mother by choice? Being able to make all the decisions myself, I hope they are the right choices for my daughter. Looking back at our journey so far, I’m super proud of how I have done this on my own and for the person she is growing into. I’ve found it incredibly rewarding to be her mum and to be part of her life. FINANCES, WORK & MOTHERHOOD Being a single mother by choice involves unique financial challenges. How do you navigate these challenges and overcome them effectively? I knew raising a child as a solo parent would have its own challenges, so I wanted to ensure that financially I wouldn’t be struggling once she arrived. I waited until I was secure in my job and home, and I saved up for the treatment rather than putting costs on credit cards (thankfully, I was able to use the cheaper option of IUI). I then saved some money for my maternity leave and claimed universal credit for the months I wasn’t receiving any income while on maternity leave (I wasn’t aware beforehand that this was something I could do; a fellow SMBC informed me). Having that security means I can focus on raising my daughter without worrying about finances, which has been really beneficial for me. LESSONS LEARNED If you could offer advice to other woman considering or on a similar path, what would it be? It can be tough, but don’t listen to anyone else other than your own feelings if this is what you want to do and you can provide a happy, safe home for your child. During my pregnancy, many people told me they couldn’t handle it on their own or how tough it was going to be, calling me brave and offering their advice. As soon as my daughter was in my arms, I knew this was what I was meant to do, and you absolutely can do this on your own. CULTURAL & SOCIETAL PERCEPTIONS How do you navigate societal perceptions or judgments about being a single mother by choice? I am incredibly open about my choice to be a SMBC and use donor conception. My hope is to educate people and help normalise this route to parenthood. I am very grateful that, so far, I haven’t faced any direct judgment from anyone. I hope anyone who knows me can see how happy we are and how going down this route has been ideal for my situation. FUTURE ASPIRATIONS Are there plans to expand your family further down the line? Yes, I would love at least one more full sibling for my daughter. She has donor-conceived friends through the networks we have made, but I want her to have someone she can really relate to as a donor-conceived person. It's just a matter of figuring out the right time for us! WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMNT If you could share a message with women considering the path of being a SMBC, what would it be? Go for it! I always had doubts, especially right after leaving the clinic following each of my IUI rounds. However, the moment I saw that positive pregnancy test, all those fears and doubts disappeared, and I have never had a single ounce of regret. My daughter is the best thing that’s ever happened to me, and she lights up my life. If you are considering this journey and can provide love, security, and happiness to a child, I wholeheartedly encourage you to go for it! Dawn We trust you found this heartfelt glimpse into Dawn's journey as a single mother by choice both insightful and inspiring. A sincere thank you to Dawn for graciously sharing her story with us. If you want to hear more empowering stories like this one, be sure to subscribe. Want to share your SMBC story? Email hello@smbclife.com Stay tuned for more uplifting tales from other single mothers by choice!

Embrace your child's curiosity. While you have written the beginning of their story, the rest of the story is theirs to write! - Shubha Swamy, Novo Psychotherapy The Story The Metaphor Clear explanation of donor conception The enchanting illustrations Emotional reassurance Inclusivity Personal connection Why you should buy this book What are other SMBC saying? Shop the book Other books in the series for SMBC "Liam's Blueprints: A IVF Donor Conception Story for Single Moms by Choice Families" masterfully explains donor conception to our children. This tender story begins with Liam, who is eager for his first day of school, celebrating with a set of building blocks gifted by his mother, an architect. As they walk to school, his mother explains her work and how blueprints guide the construction of houses, setting the stage for a meaningful conversation about the blueprints of life. The METAPHOR The brilliance of this children’s book lies in its effective use of the blueprint metaphor. Just as blueprints are essential in building a house, the story explains that “YOU prints” (or genetic blueprints) are fundamental in creating a baby. This metaphor makes the complex process of donor conception easy for young minds to follow. Liam’s understanding of blueprints from his mother’s work as an architect allows him to grasp the idea of genetic contributions in a simple way. Liam’s mother explains how some of his traits come from her and some from the sperm donor, likening these traits to the building blocks of who he is. This part of the story helps children understand the genetic contribution of the sperm donor while emphasizing that their unique personality and identity are shaped by a combination of genetics and the environment provided by their mother. For single mothers by choice, this theme underscores the message that our children are complete individuals, shaped by love, and defined by more than just their genetic makeup. CLEAR EXPLANATION OF DONOR CONCEPTION "Liam's Blueprints" excels in its gentle and clear explanation of donor conception. When Liam asks if a mommy and daddy are necessary to make a baby, his mother explains that there are many ways to create a family, including with the help of donors. The concept of a donor is introduced as a "special helper" who provides one of the essential building blocks—sperm or egg. The book does not shy away from using correct scientific terms, such as sperm, egg, embryo, and uterus. These terms are presented in an age-appropriate context, ensuring that children are not only educated about the biological aspects of conception but also comfortable with the language. The explanation of the roles of sperm and egg, and how they combine to create an embryo, is handled delicately, ensuring clarity. The straightforward approach to explaining donor conception demystifies the process without overwhelming young readers, offering a reassuring and inclusive perspective on family creation. THE Enchanting ILLUSTRATIONS The illustrations by Janne Maru bring the book to life with warmth and vibrancy. Maru's art beautifully complements the narrative, making complex concepts accessible through engaging visuals. Each page is thoughtfully designed to reflect the emotions and themes of the story, from the cozy atmosphere of Liam’s home to the imaginative scenes of blueprints and construction. Maru’s illustrations not only enhance the storytelling but also create an inviting and comforting visual experience for children, making this book a delightful and educational read. EMOTIONAL REASSURANCE A standout theme in "Liam's Blueprints" is the mother's constant reassurance and invitation for open communication. She emphasizes to Liam that he can always come to her with questions or feelings about their family story. This aspect of the book highlights something essential for both you and your child: the importance of emotional security and open dialogue. It's a comforting reminder that your family is built on love and support, extending far beyond just biological connections. INCLUSIVITY "Liam's Blueprints" normalizes diverse family structures, showing that having a single mother by choice and being donor-conceived is just one of many ways to form a family. This theme fosters a sense of belonging and acceptance, highlighting that all families are valid and special. Liam's interaction with his friend Max, who has a different family structure, illustrates the variety of family compositions in a way that is inclusive and affirming. It's a gentle reminder that your family's uniqueness is something to be celebrated, and that love is what truly defines a family. PERSONAL CONNECTION The book concludes with a special feature—a blank page where you can add a photograph or personal information. This touch transforms the book into a personalized keepsake, allowing your child to see their own family story within its pages. Additionally, the discussion guide at the back, written by Pyschotherapist Shubha Swamy, offers practical advice on how to address questions and feelings about donor conception. Covering four key topics, this guide ensures that the book serves as an educational tool tailored to each family’s unique story. WHY YOU SHOULD BUY THIS BOOK If you're a solo mother by choice seeking a heartfelt and informative way to explain donor conception to your child, "Liam's Blueprints: A IVF Donor Conception Story For Single by Choice Families" is an ideal choice. This book will help your child understand their unique and special family story, and recognize the immense love that brought them into your life. Purchase "Liam's Blueprints" today and embark on this enlightening and loving journey with your child. Who is the book aimed at? Children conceived using donor sperm in a medical setting via IVF or ICSI What are other solo mothers by choice saying about this book? They loved the story and the use of a metaphor to explain donor conception the thoughtful advice included in the discussion guide the break away from traditional gender roles with mum being an architect and Liam playing with dolls They wished the book could be even further personalized with their own child's name. SHOP THE BOOK Click the link below to purchase "Liam's Blueprints: A IVF Donor Conception Story for Single Moms by Choice Families" and explore a heartwarming tale that beautifully explains donor conception, celebrating the love and uniqueness of your family. OTHER BOOKS IN THE SERIES FOR SMBC Did you enjoy Liam's Blueprints Book Review? Thank you for joining me on this exploration of Liam's Blueprints: A IVF Donor Conception Story for Single Moms by Choice Families. Have you read this book? I'd love to hear your thoughts! Drop a comment below sharing your experience with the book or let me know if you enjoyed Liam's Blueprints Book Review and would like more reviews on children's books tailored for Single Mothers by Choice (SMBC) addressing the concept of donor conception. Your feedback is invaluable! Acknowledgment: I would like to express my gratitude to Sharon Leya for granting permission to feature images of the book cover and excerpts in this review. All images used are included with the explicit consent of the author. All thoughts and opinions expressed about the book are entirely my own, providing an unbiased and authentic perspective you can trust.

Embarking on adventures with little ones can be both thrilling and challenging, especially for solo moms juggling parenthood on their own. One essential item that can make travelling with a baby or toddler easier and more enjoyable is a reliable travel high chair. In this blog post, we’ll explore the Top 5 Travel High Chairs for Solo Moms, highlight key features to consider when choosing the perfect one, and recommend some top picks to ensure hassle-free dining experiences wherever your wanderlust takes you. Whether you’re planning a weekend getaway or a globetrotting adventure, having the right travel high chair can make all the difference in creating unforgettable moments with your little one. the top 5 styles of travel high chair: 1. Convertable High Chairs 2. Hook on Chairs 3. Booster Seats 4. Portable High Chairs 5. Inflatable High Chairs 1. ConverTIble high chairs These versatile chairs can be used as both traditional high chairs and booster seats, offering flexibility for different stages of a child's development and travel needs. Durability: Sturdy construction to support both high chair and booster seat functions. Adjustability: Highly adjustable, offering multiple seating configurations to accommodate different stages of a child’s development. Portability: Moderate portability, as they are designed to serve as both a high chair and booster seat. Ease to Clean: Easy to clean with removable, washable components. Affordability: Prices vary, but they are often in the mid to high range due to their versatility and durability. Our Top Pick HB.YE Baby Folding Dining Chair SMBC RECOMMENDED: “This versatile baby seat is a breeze to use and incredibly helpful. It wipes clean effortlessly, and our little one loves it. Whether on the floor or as a chair booster, it’s been a game-changer in our campervan. Plus, it’s perfect for beach outings – preventing a curious crawler during lunchtime or serving as a picnic spot under the pram. The best part? It folds down compactly, and we’ve received plenty of compliments on its practicality and adorable design!” 2. HOOK ON CHAIRS These attach directly to tables, providing a space-saving solution for dining out and travelling. They are highly portable and convenient. Durability: Sturdy construction, designed to withstand regular use. Adjustability: Adjustable clamps or straps accommodate different table sizes. Portability: Highly portable, compact design makes them easy to transport. Ease to Clean: Often feature removable, washable fabric components. Affordability: Prices vary, but generally mid-range to slightly higher due to their convenience and functionality. Our Top Pick Surplex Folding Baby Hook On Seat SMBC RECOMMENDED: "The Surplex Folding Baby Hook On Seat is a practical and safe solution for feeding babies at home, restaurants, or while travelling. The 7-point harness structure keeps your baby secure, while the non-slip soft plastic arms protect tables from scratches. The portable collapsible design makes it convenient to take on the go, and the storage pockets allow you to carry baby essentials. Definitely easier to transport if you have a car!" 3. BOOSTER SEATS These are designed to boost toddlers to the right height for dining at tables. Some models are portable and can be easily transported for travel. Durability: Durable construction, offering stability and support. Adjustability: Some models offer adjustable heights and harnesses for versatility. Portability: Moderate portability, depending on the design. Some models are more compact than others. Ease to Clean: Typically easy to clean with wipeable surfaces. Affordability: Prices vary, but generally mid-range, offering good value for their versatility. Our Top Pick Munchkin Baby Seat SMBC RECOMMENDED: “As a parent, I can’t recommend the Munchkin Travel Booster Seat enough. It’s a game-changer for meals on the go. Not only is it stable and secure, but it also transforms into a handy bag – perfect for busy parents. Plus, the storage compartments hold everything from bottles to nappies. The fact that it’s suitable for both baby boys and baby girls makes it even better!” 4. PORTABLE HIGH CHAIRS These are lightweight and compact, designed to fold down for easy transport, making them ideal for travel. Durability: Generally durable, but may vary depending on the brand and model. Adjustability: Limited adjustability, primarily designed for portability rather than customization. Portability: Excellent portability, lightweight and compact for easy transport. Ease to Clean: Typically easy to clean with wipeable surfaces. Affordability: Prices vary, but generally affordable, providing good value for their portability. Our Top Pick Vine Easy Seat Portable Travel High Chair SMBC RECOMMENDED: “The Vine Easy Seat: Because High Chairs Shouldn’t Be High Maintenance!” As a busy mom, I’ve mastered the art of juggling—diaper bags, sippy cups, and my sanity. But when it came to high chairs, I needed something that didn’t require a PhD in engineering just to unfold. Enter the Vine Easy Seat—a portable travel high chair that’s more versatile than a Swiss Army knife. It fits in your handbag and goes in the washing machine, and is affordable! This is my pick! 5. INFLATABLE HIGH CHAIRS These llightweight and portable chairs inflate to provide a comfortable seating solution for babies and toddlers on the go. They are easy to pack and transport. Durability: Generally less durable compared to other types of high chairs. Adjustability: Limited adjustability, as they are inflatable and lack structural support. Portability: Excellent portability, as they can be deflated and packed into a small space. Ease to Clean: Easy to wipe clean, but may not be as durable as other materials. Affordability: Generally affordable, offering a budget-friendly option for occasional use during travel. Our Top Pick Airtushi - Strong Fully Collapsible Portable Highchair SMBC RECOMMENDED: Sure, I felt a bit light-headed blowing it up (cue the superhero theme music), but it’s worth it. Just make sure those deflate valves are shut tight—otherwise, you’ll end up with a mini deflation drama. Trust me; been there, giggled that. The Airtushi deflates to fit in my bag, making it the ultimate travel companion. No more awkward restaurant high chairs or balancing acts on my lap. Just whip out the Airtushi, inflate, and voilà—a mini throne for my little munchkin. So there you have it, All in all, there are some great travel highchairs available! The hardest part is deciding which one is right for you. Having personally used both a hook on chair and the Vine - I loved the hook on for when I was travelling round in a car - I could just throw it in the boot or behind my seat. But for me the Vine is the easiest to use as a bus loving mum. It lives in my pram bag so I always have it. As with anything you need to choose what’s right for you and your little one! Good luck and safe travels ✈️ We'd love to hear from you! If you own any of these travel highchairs or have thoughts and feelings to share, please leave a comment below. Your experiences and insights not only add to the richness of our community but also help fellow Single Mothers by Choice (SMBC) navigate the world of solo parenting with confidence. Let's continue supporting and uplifting each other!

Solo parenting isn't just about overcoming challenges; it's about unlocking strengths and resilience that shape a child's future. Read a summary of the findings below or the full research study here . In a world where family structures are evolving, solo motherhood has emerged as a prominent and powerful force in shaping children's development. Long gone are the days when traditional family roles defined the norm. Today, solo mothers by choice are rewriting the narrative and demonstrating remarkable strengths that positively impact their children's growth and well-being. Recent research has shed light on the myriad ways in which solo motherhood can foster resilience, community engagement, and emotional intelligence in children. Contrary to age-old societal beliefs, solo motherhood is not solely associated with challenges; it is also a source of immense strength and opportunity for both mothers and children alike. One of the most striking findings from this research is the deepening bond between solo mothers and their children. In solo-parenting households, children often develop stronger connections with their mother, as there is an increased focus on nurturing and support within the family unit. This close bond serves as a foundation for healthy emotional development and provides children with a sense of security and stability in their upbringing. In addition solo-parenting families tend to be more involved in community activities, fostering a strong sense of belonging and social connectedness in children. Engaging with their community allows children to develop empathy, cooperation, and a broader perspective of the world around them. As they witness their mother navigate the challenges of solo parenting with grace and resilience, children learn valuable life lessons about perseverance and adaptability. Another notable benefit of solo motherhood is the cultivation of responsibility and independence in children from a young age. In single-parent households, children often take on more household responsibilities and contribute to family decision-making, which instills a sense of accountability and self-reliance. As they learn to balance their own needs with those of their mother, children develop essential life skills that serve them well into adulthood. Furthermore, adolescents raised by solo mothers tend to exhibit higher levels of confidence and self-esteem. Shielded from the conflicts and tensions that can arise in two-parent households, these children have the opportunity to thrive in a supportive and nurturing environment. They are encouraged to pursue their goals and aspirations with determination, knowing that they have a strong support system behind them In conclusion, solo motherhood is not without its challenges, but it is also a source of incredible strength and resilience. Through our unwavering love, dedication, and perseverance, we shape the lives of our children in profound and meaningful ways. By focusing on the positive impacts of solo parenting on child development, we can celebrate the unique strengths of our families and support each other in our journey toward success and fulfillment. Curious to hear your thoughts! What's your take on the findings of this research study on the positive impacts of child development in solo parent families? Leave a comment below and let's spark a conversation on solo motherhood by choice. want to read more research studies on child development? Subscribe now... so you never miss a single research article!

Welcome to 'SMBC Stories: Insights from the Journey'. In this heartfelt series, we delve into the lives of remarkable women who have embraced solo motherhood by choice. Through candid interviews, we aim to inspire, educate, and uplift those considering or embarking on this transformative journey. Join us as we share stories of resilience, courage, and determination, offering support to all navigating the journey to become a single mother by choice. Kylie Mordle, 41 Don’t wait too long, if you wait for everything to be perfect you will never do it. The Decision-Making Process My Fertility Journey Support Systems Solo Parenting Reflections Finances, Work & Motherhood Self-care & Wellbeing Lessons learned Future Aspirations Words of Encouragement The decision-making process What motivated or inspired you to become a single mother by choice? I had been deliberating the idea of being a solo mum for probably over a decade. I have always wanted to be a mother. During my 20s, I thought it would just naturally happen; I would meet somebody, and that little piece of the jigsaw would just fall into place. Like any 20-year-old, I had fun and didn’t worry too much. However, I reached my mid-30s and felt completely under pressure to find someone I wanted to marry and have children with. After many bad dates and relationships, I felt let down by the dream. To be honest, I think once you get to a certain age, men are actually put off or maybe know that your time is ticking and you want children. And to be completely honest, I just didn’t meet anybody that I would want to share my life with, let alone bring up a child with. Not to say that there are some wonderful men out there; I just haven’t been that lucky. Financially, I also knew that it would be a massive gamble. I haven’t inherited money or been given any to get on the housing ladder. Through hard graft and determination, I managed to buy a 1-bedroom flat in Bath that I’m very proud of and was saving for a two-bed for my future child. But with the house prices rising and my age against me, time was running out. The year before my 40th birthday, I started to get the ball rolling and signed up to a local fertility centre. I started searching for sperm donors while getting fertility blood work done. I also changed my diet and took an array of supplements close to 5 years before my first IUI. For many years before my first IUI, I invested a lot of time getting my hormones well balanced through diet, nutrition, and mindfulness. I really think this played a big part in my treatment being successful. becoming a single mother by choice: My FERTILITY JOURNEY What path did you take to conceive? After lots of blood work and tests, my doctor suggested I should try 3-6 rounds of IUI before I went on to IVF. He must have thought I had money growing on trees. Luckily for me, I got pregnant on my first unmedicated IUI. I was as shocked as my doctor; I couldn’t believe it had worked. I think the years I took to getting my body and hormones as balanced as possible were a major factor, as well as choosing a very athletic and healthy young Danish donor ;) SUPPORT SYSTEMS How did your friends and family react to your decision, and what kind of support did you receive? My friends and family have been extremely supportive. I didn’t tell my family until around the 3-4 month mark as I wanted to be sure the baby I was carrying was okay, but knowing how well they reacted and how supportive they have been, I would have told them a lot earlier. I found the first 3 months particularly scary and lonely. I had a few close friends and my sister who knew, and then later on, I made friends with another SMBC, Katy, who has been amazing. It’s so nice to bring up our daughters side by side and really know what it means to be a single mom by choice. Since then, she has added me to an SMBC WhatsApp group, and it’s lovely to read everyone’s messages and learn about all the individual journeys we have been on. I have had nothing but support from everyone I have met. Even those who I may have thought wouldn’t have accepted my decision as a good one have shocked me with their praises and love. SOLO PARENTING Reflections Reflecting on your journey, what stands out as the most rewarding aspect of being a single mother by choice? I had no idea what love felt like until I had Anouk. Obviously, I have been very loved by my family and friends, and vice versa, but the love you have for your own child is something else. It’s unimaginable; it’s something you can’t comprehend until it happens. I know there will be tough times ahead, and I worry financially about how I’m going to pay my mortgage and nursery fees while keeping on top of bills, etc., but it doesn’t dampen the happiness I feel every morning when I wake up to my baby girl. If anything, she is giving me more motivation and gusto for life. Since being pregnant, I have signed up for driving lessons, paid for a new roof, and decorated my flat, all in one year. Who knows what we are capable of next. FINANCES, WORK & MOTHERHOOD Being a single mother by choice involves unique financial challenges. How did you navigate these challenges and overcome them effectively? I live in the UK and I am currently on maternity leave. I receive help with Universal Credit, and hopefully, a Sure Start Maternity Grant. There is a lot of help out there for single mums. They don’t make it easy, and you have to put the effort in yourself to find it all out, but there is help available if you need it. The organization Gingerbread is absolutely brilliant for advice. I’m very lucky that my boss has also been really kind and supportive about me coming back part-time. SELF-CARE & WELLBEING Are there specific practices or routines you've adopted to help maintain balance in your life? I think it’s important to set a routine not only for your baby but also for yourself right from the beginning. It's really hard to carve out time for yourself, but after the 3-month mark, I started to invest more in myself by making nutritious meals instead of grabbing chocolate and caffeine, and by prioritizing sleep. During the first 3 months, adrenaline would get me through, but you can’t survive on that for long; soon the engine starts running out. I would say that eating properly and sleeping when the baby sleeps are way more important than keeping the house tidy or ensuring your photos look perfect. Also, don’t be afraid to say no to visitors. Looking back, I wish I had allowed myself more time to nurture myself as well as my baby in those first few weeks. If anyone is struggling with sleep, the best book I was given by my wonderful friend Alex is called “The Sensational Baby Sleep Plan” by Alison Scott Wright. It may sound corny, but don’t be put off; honestly, it worked like magic. However, currently in the sleep regression months, hoping for the magic to come back at some point. LESSONS LEARNED Reflecting on your journey, what stands out as the most rewarding aspect of being a single mother by choice? Don’t wait too long. If you wait for everything to be perfect, you will never do it. You actually don’t need a lot; babies simply want you, and you can give them pretty much everything they need. Don’t be fooled into buying all the mod cons; the same goes for all the fertility treatments out there. There is a market exploiting SMBCs as well as men and women going through fertility issues. Take advice from people, but choose what advice you take on board. Always, always listen to your own mind and body. FUTURE ASPIRATIONS Looking to the future, what are your hopes and aspirations for both yourself and Anouk? Do you have any plans to expand your family further down the line? I really hope I bring Anouk up as a well-balanced, happy individual. I want her to be confident and independent, and not as scared of the world as I was. I would also love to travel with her and experience new places, as well as sharing places I loved growing up. I can’t wait to watch her grow and blossom; she has taught me so much already. I would love two children, but equally I’m over the moon with my family as it stands I have the whole world already with Anouk. WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMNT If you could share a message with women considering the path of being a SMBC, what would it be? You can do it, and you will be an incredible mum if you have been thinking about doing this for years and you are ready to sacrifice your time, money, attention, and heart into one of the best humans you are ever going to meet. Kylie Mordle We hope you enjoyed this insightful glimpse into Kylie's journey as a single mother by choice. A big thank you to Kylie for sharing. If you want to hear more empowering stories like this one, be sure to subscribe. Want to share your SMBC story? Email smbclife@gmail.com Stay tuned for more uplifting tales from other single mothers by choice!

For All the Miracle Children of the World, Their Courgaeous Parents, and Their Gracious Donors. - Kimberley Kluger-Bell, Author The Story The Metaphor The Illustrations Enhancement through Personalization An Invaluable Resource In "The Pea that was Me," Kimberly Kluger-Bell embarks on the challenging task of explaining sperm donation to children of single mothers by choice, employing a delightful metaphor of a pea's journey into becoming a baby. The story The story follows the journey of a little pea who wonders where they came from, leading to an enlightening conversation with their mother about the process of making a baby pea. Kluger-Bell adeptly introduces terms like "sperm" and "egg" in a way that is age-appropriate and demystifying, ensuring that young readers can grasp the fundamental concepts of reproduction. the metaphor Kluger-Bell's narrative uses metaphor to communicate the varied means through which families can come together. The metaphor of a pea growing into a baby serves as the backbone of the story, simplifying the complexities of donor conception for young readers. However, there are moments where the author momentarily deviates from this metaphor. Despite these occasional shifts, which at times momentarily disrupts the narrative flow, it does not diminish the overall value of the book. Parents and educators can use "The Pea that was Me" as a starting point for conversations about diverse family structures. It also serves as a starting point for conversations with your child about their thoughts and feelings regarding being donor conceived. The illustrations In "The Pea that was Me," Kimberly Kluger-Bell's illustrations bring a touch of humour to the narrative, portraying peas with human-like faces engaged in the process of making a baby using donor sperm. With a color palette dominated by shades of green, yellow, and blue, the whimsical artwork captures the essence of the story's themes while appealing to young imaginations. Kluger-Bell's unique illustrations not only complement the narrative but also add an element of charm and playfulness, making the book visually engaging for its target audience of children. 'The Pea that was Me' navigates the sensitive subject of donor conception in an engaging and accessible way, helping young readers understand its complexities enhancement through Personalization The back of "The Pea that was Me" provides an interactive space for parents and caregivers to personalize the book's experience. This great addition allows you to insert details about your child and their family. Additionally, the book offers guidance on utilizing its content as a tool for meaningful conversations about donor conception. The inclusion of this personalized touch and the guidance on communication make the book not just a standalone resource but a valuable tool for parents navigating the delicate terrain of explaining unique family structures to their curious young ones. The Pea THat Was Me Book Review Conclusion: AN INVALUABLE RESOURCE In conclusion, "The Pea that was Me" offers a heartfelt and accessible narrative for single mothers by choice who wish to share the story of their child's conception with love and honesty. This beautifully illustrated book provides a gentle way to explain the unique circumstances surrounding their donor conception journey. By using a relatable metaphor and age-appropriate language, this book encourages open and honest conversations fostering a deeper understanding of what it means to be donor conceived. "The Pea that was Me" is an invaluable resource for SMBC seeking to share their child's origin story with warmth and reassurance. Enrich your family library with 'The Pea That Was Me' by Kimberly Kluger-Bell - Dive into this beautifully illustrated journey of love, honesty and family today. Who is the book aimed at? Children conceived using donor sperm in a medical setting via IUI, IVF or ICSI Children aged 3 and up What are other solo mothers by choice saying about this book? They loved the sweet story that their children enjoyed how the book encouraged questions, interaction and discussion with their children the straightforward language making it easy for children to understand They were unsure about the consistency in the metaphor They wished the illustrations were a little more colourful the main character was gender neutral, although this can be easily remedied if you are happy to draw in the book . Shop the Book Click the link below to add "The Pea That Was Me": A Single Mom's Sperm Donation Story to your collection and embark on a heartwarming journey that celebrates the story of donor conception and the creation of a loving family. other books in the series for smbc Did you enjoy this Review? Thank you for joining me on this exploration of "A Pea That Was Me" by Kimberly Kluger-Bell. Have you read this book? I'd love to hear your thoughts! Drop a comment below sharing your experience with the book or let me know if you enjoyed 'The Pea That Was Me' Book Review and would like more reviews on children's books tailored for Single Mothers by Choice (SMBC) addressing the concept of donor conception. Your feedback is invaluable! Acknowledgment: I would like to express my gratitude to Kimberly Kluger-Bell for granting permission to feature images of the book cover and excerpts in this review. All images used are included with the explicit consent of the author. All thoughts and opinions expressed about the book are entirely my own, providing an unbiased and authentic perspective you can trust.

Welcome to 'SMBC Stories: Insights from the Journey'. In this heartfelt series, we delve into the lives of remarkable women who have embraced solo motherhood by choice. Through candid interviews, we aim to inspire, educate, and uplift those considering or embarking on this transformative journey. Join us as we share stories of resilience, courage, and determination, offering support to all navigating the journey to become a single mother by choice. Jess Glover, 32 The most rewarding part about being a solo mum is watching my child grow and develop daily, hearing her laugh, seeing her smile, and listening to her call me Mama. It’s the most amazing thing ever. The Decision-Making Process My Fertility Journey Support Systems Solo Parenting Reflections Finances, Work & Motherhood Self-care & Wellbeing Lessons learned Cultural & Societal Perceptions Future Aspirations Words of Encouragement The decision-making process What motivated or inspired you to become a single mother by choice? I had lost my fallopian tube the year before I decided to start treatment due to a large cyst. After some follow-up scans, I was told that my ovaries were very multicystic. The doctor advised me that if I wanted to be a mother, it would be better to consider it sooner rather than later. Wanting nothing more than to become a mum, I decided to jump straight into the process. Being a mum was more important to me than anything, and nothing was going to stop me from exploring my options. I discussed it with my GP, and he was a great help. A few years before the onset of Covid, I had looked into adoption. However, I felt the need to try having a biological child first, especially if time was working against me. My mom had already lost her ovaries and womb at 29, and my doctor had indicated that I was heading the same way. I had struggled with endometriosis and polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) for years. becoming a single mother by choice: My FERTILITY JOURNEY What path did you take to conceive? During my first consultation with the fertility clinic, I was presented with the option of IVF or IUI. I inquired about the likelihood of success with each, and the doctor honestly conveyed that, in his opinion, IVF was the better option for me, albeit more invasive. My journey with being stimulated wasn't straightforward initially; I wasn't responding, so my medication was increased. Subsequently, progress was slow, leading to an extension of the stimulants. I had 14 eggs collected, of which 13 were mature, 7 fertilized, and ultimately resulted in 4 average embryos. Fortunately, I became pregnant after my first fresh round. However, I was admitted to the hospital with severe OHSS, which took 15 weeks to recover from. I experienced various complications, including massive blood clots, but looking back, it was all worth it. SUPPORT SYSTEMS How did your friends and family react to your decision, and what kind of support did you receive? My family was amazing, especially my mum. My Grandad helped fund my treatment because, even with medical conditions, I still didn't receive any support to fund it. My dad and my sister were incredibly apprehensive about it all – my sister about me being a single parent, and my dad had a lot of anxiety while I was in early pregnancy because I was so unwell. My best friend was my absolute rock through it all, along with my mum; she helped me go through potential donors and talk about everything. SOLO PARENTING Reflections Reflecting on your journey, what stands out as the most rewarding aspect of being a single mother by choice? The most rewarding part about being a solo mum is watching my child grow and develop daily, hearing her laugh, seeing her smile, and listening to her call me Mama. It’s the most amazing thing ever. FINANCES, WORK & MOTHERHOOD Juggling career and parenting is a universal challenge; what tips do you have for fellow single mothers navigating this delicate balance? I feel incredibly lucky because, although I have to work full-time like many parents, I get to take Elsie to work with me daily when I do go back full time, and for that, I’m very grateful. As far as finances are concerned, I try to be really savvy about shopping for her needs. I shop in all the sales, wait for baby events, search for vouchers and coupons, and bulk buy things like nappies and wipes so I’m always ahead of her needs. I started getting a year ahead with her clothes when I was pregnant, and I continue to do the same now, if not further, with the help of sales, bargains, and offers. I save hard for holidays and outings, and it’s worth it all. SELF-CARE & WELLBEING Prioritizing self-care is key; how do you ensure your well-being while managing the responsibilities of single parenthood? I'll be honest; I suck at self-care. I've recently had a massage, and that was bliss. It definitely taught me I need to do it more, but I have yet to find that balance. She's my whole world, so maybe I need some lessons in self-care. LESSONS LEARNED If you could offer advice to other women considering or on a similar path, what would it be? My advice to any mother thinking of going through the journey to be a solo mother is to know your village. Surround yourself with people with babies who know what it’s like to not have slept for weeks on end. Speak to people openly who’ve gone through IVF or other treatments so you know what to expect. I went through IVF alongside a friend, and it helped massively for both of us. Know you can’t do everything alone; you do need a support system too. On days where the baby cries all day, and you desperately need a shower or to eat a meal, it’s important to have those people who will drop everything to help you along the way. We’ve all had those days. CULTURAL & SOCIETAL PERCEPTIONS How do you navigate societal perceptions or judgments about being a single mother by choice? I’ve been super honest about Elsie being donor-conceived with everyone, and I’ll continue to do so. I did the same when I was pregnant if anyone asked, and if anyone is curious, I answer all their questions. My Granny asks the best questions, including all about my daughter's donor. Everyone was incredibly amazing about it. When my younger nieces and nephew ask questions about Elsie’s “daddy,” I always explain honestly that she doesn’t have one, and the doctors helped me have Elsie. As they get older, I will be as honest with them as I am with Elsie about Elsie’s donor. FUTURE ASPIRATIONS Are there plans to expand your family further down the line? At the moment, I have no desires to ever be pregnant again. Pregnancy was incredibly difficult, and midway through my pregnancy, my mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer; it was rough. I really just want to put my all into Elsie and give her my everything. If that desire changes in the future, I have three frozen embryos to try. I can categorically say I will never do the full IVF again, though. WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMNT If you could share a message with women considering the path of being a SMBC, what would it be? If you have the desire to be a mum and you think the only thing that’s stopping you is being single, know you do have options, and it’s worth exploring those options. You can do it! Jess Glover We hope you enjoyed this insightful glimpse into Jess' journey as a single mother by choice. A big thank you to Jess for sharing. 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Dive into the world of Solo Motherhood by Choice on screen with the following 6 movies—SMBC approved and recommended just for you. FILMS FOR SINGLE MOTHERS BY CHOICE 1. THE SWITCH (2010) "The Switch" is a heartfelt comedy that revolves around Kassie, portrayed by Jennifer Aniston, who decides to have a child through artificial insemination. The film explores themes of friendship, love, and unconventional family dynamics. Kassie's best friend, Wally, played by Jason Bateman, accidentally swaps the donor's sample with his own, leading to unforeseen complications. As the story unfolds, "The Switch" navigates the challenges and joys of single motherhood by choice, incorporating humour and touching moments. While the film uses comedic elements, it also delves into the genuine emotions and resilience of single mothers, providing a light-hearted yet relatable portrayal of our unique journey. How to Watch: Amazon Prime - Click here Apple TV - Click here Google Play - Click here 2. THE BACK-UP PLAN (2010) "The Back-Up Plan" is a romantic comedy that follows Zoe, played by Jennifer Lopez, as she navigates the challenges of single motherhood. In the film, Zoe, a successful and independent woman, decides to have a baby through artificial insemination. However, life takes an unexpected turn when she meets Stan, played by Alex O'Loughlin, on the same day as her procedure. As their relationship blossoms, Zoe grapples with the complexities of balancing a budding romance and impending motherhood. The movie portrays the humorous and heartfelt moments of Zoe's journey, touching on the genuine struggles and joys faced by single mothers by choice. How to Watch: Amazon Prime - Click here Google Play - Click here Apple TV - Click here 3. BABY MAMA (2008) "Baby Mama" is a comedy that playfully explores the concept of motherhood, The film follows Kate, played by Tina Fey, a successful businesswoman who dreams of having a child but faces fertility challenges. She decides to hire Angie, portrayed by Amy Poehler, as a surrogate to carry her baby. The dynamic between Kate, a career-oriented woman, and Angie, a more free-spirited character, leads to comical situations and unexpected bonding, making "Baby Mama" an entertaining watch. How to Watch: Amazon Prime - Click here Apple TV - Click here Google Play - Click here 4. MAGGIE'S PLAN (2015) "Maggie's Plan" is a witty and thought-provoking comedy-drama that delves into the complexities of relationships, family dynamics, and non-traditional paths to motherhood. Maggie, played by Greta Gerwig, is a quirky and determined woman who initially plans to become a single mother by choice through artificial insemination. However, her life takes unexpected turns as she falls in love with a married man, played by Ethan Hawke, complicating her original plan. The film navigates the challenges and joys of Maggie's unconventional journey, offering a balanced portrayal of the nuances in relationships and parenting choices. With humour and heart, "Maggie's Plan" explores the unpredictability of life and the ways in which our plans can be reshaped by love and circumstance, making it an engaging watch. How to Watch: Amazon Prime - Click here Google Play - Click here 5. You, ME & HIM (2017) This film contains themes of fertility challenges, pregnancy loss, and the emotional impact of the loss of a baby. Viewer discretion is advised. "You, Me and Him" is a British romantic comedy that intricately weaves together the lives of Olivia (played by Lucy Punch) and Alex (played by Faye Marsay), a seemingly content couple, and their charismatic neighbour, John (played by David Tennant). The film explores the complexities of an unconventional love triangle, navigating themes of fertility, pregnancy, and the emotional impact of the loss of a baby on the characters. Amidst the humour and heartfelt moments, the movie takes a unique turn by delving into the journey of Olivia, who decides on single motherhood by choice. Lucy Punch's character, Olivia, becomes pregnant through artificial insemination, leading to a series of comedic and heartwarming events. This unique mix of comedy and more serious themes creates a film that encapsulates both lighthearted and emotionally resonant moments, portraying the various facets of modern family life. How to Watch: Amazon Prime - Click here 6. THE SINGLE MOM'S CLUB (2014) "The Single Moms Club", directed by Tyler Perry, is a heartfelt comedy-drama that brings together a diverse group of single mothers, each facing unique challenges. The film follows five women from different backgrounds and walks of life who form a support group, the Single Moms Club, after their children get into trouble at school. One of the mother's May, played by Nia Long, is a single mother by choice through adoption. While the story doesn't specifically focus on SMBC, it highlights the strength, resilience, and friendship that emerge as these women navigate the ups and downs of single parenthood. The movie provides a balanced portrayal, addressing the complexities of balancing work, relationships, and parenting. How to Watch: Amazon Prime - Click here Google Play - Click here And there you have it — a fantastic line-up of movies featuring single mothers by choice and the heart-warming tales that unfold within them. Grab your popcorn, cozy up, and let the magic of these stories whisk you away. Whether you're seeking inspiration, a good laugh, or a heartfelt journey, these films have it all. So, what are you waiting for? Dive into the world of solo motherhood, celebrate the strength, resilience, and joy that these characters bring, and let the cinematic adventure begin! Happy watching ! [All movie poster images used in this blog post are the property of their respective copyright holders. These images are utilized for editorial and educational purposes only, in an effort to review and discuss the content of the associated films. No infringement of copyright is intended. If you are the legal copyright holder of any of the movie posters displayed and believe your rights have been violated, please contact SMBC life promptly for resolution]